On Mr Big, the Likes, and Bears

Everyone knows Mr Big from Sex and the City. Everyone either loved or loathed him, for he loves Carrie in his own unique way. Or loathed him for stringing Carrie along for 10 years, despite finally decided to have her for the rest of his life (not without glitches I must say).

What is it about men like Mr Big? Are men really generally scared of commitment? Or are they just scared of commitment to that particular girl?

In Mr Big's case, all I recall was that he wasn't sure. He needed to do it in his own 'time frame'. He had a bad marriage and was not about to repeat the same, and thus taking his time to be 'sure'.

But seriously, is that all there is?

Is the act of men not wanting to commit indicates how much he loves that person, for fear that he might hurt the girl?

Or is it really the case of 'why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?

If all the acts of love is there, but there is no lights at the end of the tunnel, do you still drive the train hoping that there will be lights at the end of the tunnel? Do you just not care and enjoy the train ride?

I'm not saying men are all at fault. In all honestly, women can do the same. Somehow I may have been there. But truth be told, that of all the people I surveyed, 8 out of 10 are male who are scared of commitment. By nature, this is the case.

There are some males who you push, and will just go run away. Then there are ones who you give ultimatum will realised that that's all they need - the smack on the back of their head that the realisation of losing the love of their lives.

Then, there are the ones who cannot decide for themselves.

I wonder if I am one of them.

I think I'll follow Treespotter and just dates squirrels. No more bears, or polar bears for that matter at this stage.

Mind you, I have a thing for cuddly bear. Though, my affection for bears are wearing out. Sigh.